Nisha Mordani’s Blog

“Daddy”….even as I write this most loving word….tears well up in my eyes with fond and loving memories of HIM.

My father left us for his Heavenly abode on 9th of July 2004 at the age of 80.Never ever did I imagine a day would come when he would be declared “no more”…these things happen to other people…not to us!!Oh…what a false notion we all live with !

Dad …..a man of principles….very organised in his ways…methodical in everything he did….particular about every little detail…. lived a very disciplined life.How could such a towering personality just be “no more”??? Our dearest Dad….whom we looked up to with great reverence…..and sometimes with awe….just simply left us one morning without the slightest warning….how could God be sooooooooo cruel???

So many questions…the “how,what,why,if only”……remain unanswered and as time goes by we have come to terms with the fact that we shall never,never see him again Death is so final…..the end of a chapter

After the India,Pakistan partition….dad came to Shillong…..a small hill station in the North East of India. Mom ,along with three of my sisters accompanied him. They came here without a penny…..Dad started life from scratch……we never ever heard him complain……inspite of the fact that he belonged to the zamindar family in Sindh ,Pakistan….and they all fled from there….with absolutely nothing but their precious selves.

Dad was a very strong-willed person….he worked,worked and worked and from nothing he became one of the leading businessmen of Shillong Such was his determination ! (My three brothers and I were born later in Shillong ). He gave us the best !We never experienced any want …..we asked and we received!!! Yet he took care not to spoil any one of us …..he was firm,but gentle. He never ever spoke ill of anyone….he never held any grudge against anyone…helped people in every way he could….. and never spoke about it …..he never complained….. was a spiritual person……he did selfless service to people in need..and was the most generous person I have ever seen!!! He never spoke about all the good he did……his left hand did not know what his right hand had donated …..so great was the man !!

He was a family man….we never heard him raise his voice ……mom and he have been the most doting couple I have ever seen. NOT ONCE did we witness any tiff between them amazing….isn’t it??? They spent 65 years together !!! They doted on each other….mom loved to look after his personal needs….ironed his clothes,polished his shoes every morning , served him meals , watched television together…and discussed the various serials .Mom would always sit by his feet….and standard joke among us was that “Dad was Narayan and Mom was Lakshmi in the famous pose of narayan/lakshmi on the cobra”!!!!! ( Hindu Mythology ) How I miss all this

Though, financially we were well off ,dad was very careful about spending ,especially on himself…..If he had to go anywhere,he would prefer to walk….he never used the car ! He kept the accounts…..and every paisa was accounted for!He hated using the calculator…..he did marvellous mental calculations .

A person like him can never die….he lives through us…..he has surely merged with the Divine and He is taking care of us from somewhere above! I feel his presence very strongly in my life

I could go on and on ….there is soooooooooo much to say …. for me he was and will always remain my GURU !!I have learnt a lot from him… I treasure all the values we have inherited from him …. and which…we have ,in turn,handed down to our children…and I feel proud that I am part of him and he is alive somewhere inside me!!! Thank you dearest dad for everything…..and thank you, most of all , for being MY dad

Meditation ?????What is it?Do we have to go to the Himalayas to meditate?Do have have to give up the comforts of life if we want to meditate? We often think… Meditation???For me?No way….I’ll find time for that when I retire from work!!! WOW…what misnomers!!!Who has seen tomorrow…why wait till you are 60 to do what babies do when they are born???

Yes…babies are born with their hands in “adi mudra”…i.e four fingers of each hand wrapped around their little thumb …amazing isn’t it?? They are in such a blissful, meditative state….we have so much to learn from them!!

MEDITATE OUR WAY TO GLOWING HEALTH——-CHOICE IS OURS!!!!!

This seems a very strong statement!! All it takes is a simple decision ,yet we avoid this and bury our heads in the sand like ostriches!Why? The list of justifications is long and rather hilarious at times.For instance…”I really don’t have the time”…”I cannot sit still for so long”…”I don’t have the patience!!!” Does any of this sound familiar ???

Each one of us is an embodiment of energy.We are connected with Divine cosmic energy,but we do not realise this.Even as we read this the question pops up “Is this right ?”And so we go on questioning ,yet the truth stares us in the face.

Let us take our bodies for instance. Most of the times we tell our body to shut up,instead of listening to the signals it gives us.No other living creature needs an alarm clock to wake up or a sleeping pill to go to bed.We pride ourselves on how we abuse our body.We gloat about how much we can drink,how late we can party,how hard we can work and how badly we can treat ourselves and our body.No wonder we need more food to stop feeling hungry,more drugs to overcome illness,more wine to get drunk,and more television to stop getting bored.

Our body has tremendous intelligence built over 600 million years of evolution as living beings .Much of our body  activity is controlled by the autonomous nervous system with no inputs from us consciously,such as ,breathing,digesting,maintaining our balance or even regulating our sleep – wake cycle.If we needed to worry about doing these things we would be tied up in knots !!!

This is the miracle of our body intelligence.Every single cell in our body is gifted with intelligence to carry out its own functions and coordinate with the functions of related cells.Our mind and body interact very closely and influence each other in amazing ways.Over 85% of our physical ailments are influenced by our mind and are psychosomatic.The mind has the power to both cause and cure diseases.

PET scans( positron emission tomography…. scan to detect diseases early) show that memories evoke different chemical patterns in the brain.Instantly this information is spread through the body to the cellular structure.Our body is truly a reflection of our thoughts!!

It is ONLY through meditation that we can connect with our body to understand what it requires.We start out thinking that meditation is all about sitting in one place very,very still and concentrating on a point between the eyes…That,my dear, is the best way to get a headache Meditation is certainly not about “concentration”. It is more about “Complete Relaxation”, of our body and our mind.The more we relax into meditation,the more benefit we derive from the process. We need to listen…..listen and connect with the beautiful silence within. Finally…do we want a life of health…wealth…laughter .. OR… disease… depression….dullness….THE CHOICE IS ENTIRELY OURS !!!!

Now the question is……where and in what position should one sit in order to meditate??Well….it is ideal to find a quiet corner…sit in the position you are most comfortable in……close your eyes and take a few deep breaths…then just relax and let go !!

I,for one,also meditate while I go for a Nature Walk!! I go alone,in silence,look around at the beauty of Nature….observe things I have never ever noticed before…like the shapes of certain leaves…the little ants crawling up the bark of a tree…the sounds of insects and birds…the setting sun…the shapes of clouds…oooooooh….just about everything that adds to the beauty of Nature!!! My heart fills with gratitude and I thank God again and again for this beautiful world and the gift of life!!!

The bottom line is…..keep aside 20 minutes of ” me time ” each day …. when you can be with yourself and get in touch with yourself